You can pour a dollop of shoe shine over a pile of shit, it still isn’t going to look good with your tuxedo.
Too much of what, sweetie??
Too much virtue?
Too much femininity?
Too much softness and suppleness and graciousness?
Too much strength and steadfastness and groundedness?
Too much firm ass and perky tits?
Too much long, slender legs?
Too much open-heartedness? Too much passion? Too much wit?
Too much inspirational? Too much sex? Too much reliable, intelligent, giving, generous?
What are you too much off?
What exactly are you packaging in the wrapper of ‘too much’?
Might it be too much drama? Too much bullshit? Too much repeating, hurtful patterns that you are doing nothing about?
Could it be acting too much like a petulant child and drama queen?
Could it be too much breaking of promises? Too much not keeping your word?
Too much lack of accountability and more lack of accountability and then even another too much dollop of lack of accountability?
Too much denial? Too much lack of reciprocity? Too much selfishness?
What math are you working by anyway? Is the universe making a mathematical exception to just you? Because the women that are too much of the virtuous qualities are treated as a prize above rubies. They are longed after and pursued and snatched up by the most qualified men in this world.
Those too much women are cherished and loved and doted after.
Those too much women are honored and valued — because they are valuable!
Men are not idiots. Men recognize when a woman is an asset to their life and when she is dead weight, when she is a liability. So if man after man is cutting you loose, it might be because you are too much dead weight, you are too much liability.
We are ALL acting in our self-interest all the time. And that is logical. It keeps things sane and straight. But by that ever-clear logic, we don’t dump and abandon that which is too good. We get away from that which sucks big time.
All I hear when I hear a woman bring out this trope of ‘I’m too much’ is that ‘Not only am I a liability as a woman and as a partner, but I have no clarity or will or desire to examine myself and try something new.’ It shows you have no capacity for taking feedback. It shows you have no capacity for being corrected by others that you are trying to pair bond with. It shows you have no capacity to take corrections from the men in your life. You have no interest in helping yourself. And you blame and punish others if and when they try to help you.
If the genders were reversed in this phenomenon, the matter would be absolutely laughable. Imagine a man who is unreliable and dishonorable and a liar and cheater saying he’s too much! ‘I’m just too much for you baby!’ ‘You can’t handle my wild nature!’ I’m just too much of an asshole. I’m just too much of a rake. Too broke. Too much of a bum. Too much of an ill-tempered drunk and addict. You just can’t handle all this too much!
Please!!! Get your shit together. Nobody is buying your ‘too much’ bullshit. You are just giving yourself away. Even other women, when they hear a woman go on about being too much, know deep down in their gut that ‘this gal’s life is in the shitter!’. And all the men listening, if they have any worldly wisdom at all, quietly note in their minds that your too much ass may be good for a booty call once or twice, but that they should keep their shoes nearby and the door unlocked so they can make a quick exit.
Instead of going on further in this ridiculous manner about being too much, just try being a basic level decent fucking human being.
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